All the #stayathome thing has got into our life inevitably. During this pandemic, we all live closely and separately with our beloved ones and sometimes this made us realise what relationship we are actually dealing with. It lets us see the truest colours of everybody. 

When we are hurt by the persons we love, we get used to forgive them and try to understand their characters and ways of thinkings. We set aside our egos and needs for the people we love. And, when there are times when it is us that now need to be understood, they would tell us that we are just being selfish. Does this happen to you? 

This makes you think, "Am I really being selfish?"

Maybe, I am.

But, what if I am not? 

There are so many different stories every relationship has that we might never know. However, I am going to share with you what these broken hearts, fights and arguments have actually taught me and opened my eyes. 

We will never be able to completely understand others' way of thinking...

What is being said sometimes - or maybe most of the times - are different to what is really in their mind. People don't tell the truths and just expect you to understand them, like a psychic. They, then, tell you that you are being selfish and only think about yourself that you can't event think of what they actually feel.

We are not selfish. We just have different priorities...

It's nobody's mistake. It's nobody's fault. It's just we have different priorities and we do not respect each others' priorities enough at certain level. Even though sometimes our top priority is the best for them, us and everyone. They just do not get it.

Nothing is wrong with us...

During a tense situation, the other side might often point out our attitudes which make them feel offended, e.g. "your speaking tone worsens everything", "you're always being too sensitive", "you're being paranoid", "you're being selfish", "you are acting like you are the smartest", "you're just... you're just being too much!" 

Sadly, when we have made points the other side could not agree - or might be scared to agree with, they would start attacking our personalities. 

There is no point for us to try to win...

Let them win. There is no point to try, anyway. Often times, the other side has closed their mind, eyes and ears to what we're saying. It's better to save our energy.

The tears will eventually dry...

You will eventually get used to this. No more sadness. No more heartbreak. It's just you, feeling numb. When you can't feel anything, perhaps that would be the best time to only feel you - what you actually want and deserve. Use all the remaining energy we have to stand up again and embrace the brand new day. 

Nobody is perfect...

Trying to understand and remember this fact: they are not perfect and so are we. Perhaps by forgiving them, it would give us a sense of peace although we do not have any intention to start new communication with them again. If they could get tired of trying to understand you, it seems fair if we do the same.

We cannot force anything that does not belong to us...

Every time things do not go as we plan, we are always given a fact to know - mostly about those persons. Let the Universe do Its job. Let It show us where to go. 

Definitely, this makes us learn a lot and grow as an adult. Every unhappiness that we saw makes us understand what happiness actually is - or does it? Anyway, even if we have not discovered what actually makes us happy, at least we have known what doesn't.

Someday we would have the courage to leave all the toxic people in our life and move forward by our own.

Every person has different stories and perspectives and I think we are not obliged to understand and agree with all of them. 

'Sleep on it' and use the time to recharge our energy so that in the morning, we'll be able to 'walk away' from all the negative vibes that do not match ours. 

Shit happens in life. Whatever this could mean to you but, let's move on.

Maybe you need a bit of Beyonce today.