Everybody might have been impacted by the current global situation differently. However, one thing for sure, we are all on the same boat even though the affects could be vary for each person; might be depression, unemployment, loneliness, recession and many more. The pandemic is actually warning us to work not only on our physical but also mental health.

Usually this is the best time when your mind to play trick with you. When the situation makes feel uneasy and uncomfortable with the uncertainty, your mind would try to tempt you to bring back to those comfortable and familiar experiences in the past. And I am pretty sure, amongst all those beautiful memories in the past you have ever thought of is a chapter about your former loved one.

With most of the time spent on the internet and your mobile, everything makes it easier for us to revisit those unforgettable memories - although sometimes those memories are not really beautiful but still, they made you feel something back then - and you want the familiar feeling. Starting from visiting the online profile on social media, checking how he has been doing and coping with the situation, whether he is already in a new relationship with someone, what he is up to lately, whether he misses and thinks of me sometimes and go on and on...

Does this happen to you too?

It does to me.

Instead of trying to vigorously say NO to this and blame yourself for bringing back that one person who might have left you a scar, it is actually better to let the whole idea come and then let it go by itself. When I miss this one person, the thoughts about this person mostly came during the night before I went to sleep. I let myself to experience that feeling when I miss that person, perhaps by listening to the old playlist. However, I won't do anything about it until it goes. Once, it got worse and I even dreamed about it.

Actually, you do not really have to be so hard on yourself. If you think everything ends in a good term and you are still being friend, that is totally fine if you want to reach out. However, I don't know how many times I've said this to others: I live by the movie "He's not Just That Into You".

Who am I to avoid you to not talk or reach out to the person you love, right? Nevertheless, if you still doubt about it, let's try to go through the following thoughts.


"Darling, You are Just Bored." 

Like I've mentioned in earlier, this whole situation is crazy and new to us. Don't bring back the person who is supposed to be left behind into your present life.

"Trust the Universe."

If it is meant to be then it will - without having you to have too many thoughts and efforts.

"You Don't Need That Person."

Why? Because if you need that one particular person, the Universe will bring that person to you. We always get what we need, don't we?

"Sorry, tell me again why you two ended the relationship? And how did it end?"

This might involve some anger, resentment, sadness and heartbroken, which means that that person is not right for us. There is a reason why it did not work.


Do yourself a favor and sleep on it.